Prevent trouble…

Prevent trouble before it arises.
Put things in order before they exist.
The giant pine tree
grows from a tiny sprout.
The journey of a thousand miles
starts beneath your feet.
Rushing into action, you fail.
Trying to grasp things, you lose them.
Forcing a project to completion,
You ruin what was almost ripe.
Therefore the Master takes action
by letting things take their course.
He remains calm
at the end as at the beginning.
He has nothing
thus has nothing to lose.
What he desires is nondesire;
what he learns is to unlearn.
He simply reminds people
of who they have always been.
He cares for nothing but the Tao [the Way].
Thus he can care for all things.

-Lao Tzu

I found this amazing quote in the book “Buddha Is As Buddha Does” by Lama Surya Das. It is exemplar of all I strive for as my purpose. Great quote! Great book.


The Four Immeasurables

May all mother sentient beings boundless as the sky have happiness and the causes of happiness.

May they be free from suffering and the causes of suffering.

May they never be separated from happiness and the causes of happiness.

May the rest in equanimity free from attachment and aversion.

Here’s to turning 30

Today I am 30 years old. As I look back on this life I see a vibrant, at times turbulent and miserable, potpourri of experience. I am reminded of a couple of poems. The first:

By Edgar Allen Poe 

From childhood’s hour I have not been
As others were—I have not seen
As others saw—I could not bring
My passions from a common spring—
From the same source I have not taken
My sorrow—I could not awaken
My heart to joy at the same tone—
And all I lov’d—I lov’d alone—
Then—in my childhood—in the dawn
Of a most stormy life—was drawn
From ev’ry depth of good and ill
The mystery which binds me still—
From the torrent, or the fountain—
From the red cliff of the mountain—
From the sun that ’round me roll’d
In its autumn tint of gold—
From the lightning in the sky
As it pass’d me flying by—
From the thunder, and the storm—
And the cloud that took the form
(When the rest of Heaven was blue)
Of a demon in my view—
And the second:
“The Men That Don’t Fit In”
By Robert W Service

There’s a race of men that don’t fit in,
    A race that can’t stay still;
So they break the hearts of kith and kin,
    And they roam the world at will.
They range the field and they rove the flood,
    And they climb the mountain’s crest;
Theirs is the curse of the gypsy blood,
    And they don’t know how to rest.

If they just went straight they might go far;
    They are strong and brave and true;
But they’re always tired of the things that are,
    And they want the strange and new.
They say: “Could I find my proper groove,
    What a deep mark I would make!”
So they chop and change, and each fresh move
    Is only a fresh mistake.

And each forgets, as he strips and runs
    With a brilliant, fitful pace,
It’s the steady, quiet, plodding ones
    Who win in the lifelong race.
And each forgets that his youth has fled,
    Forgets that his prime is past,
Till he stands one day, with a hope that’s dead,
    In the glare of the truth at last.

He has failed, he has failed; he has missed his chance;
    He has just done things by half.
Life’s been a jolly good joke on him,
    And now is the time to laugh.
Ha, ha! He is one of the Legion Lost;
    He was never meant to win;
He’s a rolling stone, and it’s bred in the bone;
    He’s a man who won’t fit in.

These wonderful poems used to describe me. I identified with them. Now life is about drawing happiness and sorrow from a common well, and maintaining serenity, mindfulness, and peace.

Looking forward I can say that i finally see hope. I have found new purpose, and with it new direction. Compassion and generosity are becoming a way of life that gives me a joy I did not know i could have simply by reaching out to and for others. I look around and feel love now. I have a long way to go, but by living this way i can be there before I get there. I draw inspiration from the random acts of kindness I witness daily, and it gives me courage to do what i never thought was possible. I am grateful for everything I am given, and look forward for what’s to come, good or bad.

A Mindfulness Poem

Life renewing silence, seething.

Breathing in.

Breathing out.

Ebbing like the give and take of the lunar tide, full and empty.


Passing on like fleeting moments, their seconds tick, tick, ticking.

Like the sticking of drops of dew on rose pedal destined to dry in the morning sun. The same petal destined to be shunned from its stem:



Crumbling into dust and blown away by a breeze that is finite itself.

Like that rose petal into the swaying trees I will some day flee as my consciousness does as I fall into the deepest sleep

The Illusion of Self and the Voice of the Soul


I stood at the gateway of a complete overhaul of my entire way of life. I knew what I had to do to make a big change. It was simple; I had to get off of the drugs, and give up the foolish attempts to fix myself. I stood at the proverbial crossroads, and I felt deep within me the hollow nagging fear of not knowing who I was. My own identity evaded me. I had been defining myself by what others thought of me. Drugs and alcohol had become an extension of who I was, and I was lost. I felt as if I was cut adrift with no direction to go. How could I recreate myself? How could I find myself among the debris of the chaotic twisted steel and rubble of a life I so desperately wanted to leave behind? It was nearly impossible to face myself, and look at who I had become. For years I had hid what I didn’t want to accept deep down in the dark abyss of my heart and soul. I was terrified of people finding out about my traumas, about the things I had done to perpetuate my substance abuse problem. I couldn’t surmount the fear and shame I felt that I might be bi-sexual. I was raised to believe any sexual orientation other than heterosexual was a sin, and punishable by an eternity in hell. These are just a few of the hurdles I was trying to overcome, but I couldn’t figure who I was in any of it. I was having a very serious identity crisis, and it was keeping me from growing. I had no idea how to come to terms with all of these blinding truths. Acceptance seemed so far away, and it wasn’t until I found the practice and study of Buddhism that I was able to find peace. In it I discovered the idea of no-self, and liberation.

The Illusion of SelfImage

So who am I? My name is Michael, and I have preferences. I am an independent. I live in New Hampshire, am a recovering addict, and have fathered two children. Are these things me? Do these things define of me, or are they merely just parts of my personality, and things about my life? Am I my thoughts? Am I my beliefs? Am I how I feel? Am I the result of my past, the culmination of everything that has ever happened to me, or that I have ever done, said, or thought? Do all of these things define me as a human being? I believe if we look deeper we can find the answer.

“’Mind is an illusory reflection of cerebral fidgeting. It comprises all the random, uncontrollable thoughts that bubble into awareness from the subconscious. Consciousness is not mind; awareness is not mind; attention is not mind. Mind is an obstruction, an aggravation. It is a kind of evolutionary mistake in the human being … I have no use for mind.”

-Socrates, The Way of the Peaceful Warrior

Merriam-Webster defines personality “as the complex of characteristics that distinguishes an individual or a nation or group; especially: the totality of an individual’s behavioral and emotional characteristics.” Sure we have many behavioral and emotional characteristics, but is that all that we are, or is there something beneath all the characteristics of our personalities? If we look deeper we can see that there is personality and then beneath that there is also awareness of personality.

In theater, actors adopt a role, and take on a persona, but the persona is not who the actor is. Instead the persona is like a mask the actor peers through. Such are our personalities, traits, flaws, and characteristics. The self, like the persona, is an illusion. We see the world through the mask of the mind, and believe we are the mask. Looking deeply we can see that we are the awareness behind the mask, and that the mask is a tool we use to relate with others, and to function as members of a society.

In each moment we have the potential to be reborn, and just be. If there is no self then there is no identity to find. We can live moment to moment aware of the thoughts, emotions, and characteristics we experience. This allows us to touch them, feel them, and choose how to respond to them skillfully. It was because of this realization that I found freedom. Though I may have made mistakes, may have fears, and possibly be bisexual, I can accept life as it happens instead of reacting to it. Although this is simple it is by no stretch easy. I have to practice every day. I am still searching my feelings about my sexual orientation, but I am slowly becoming capable of letting go of my fears. It really takes practice, and that is where meditation really becomes practical.

“To really get it, you must observe yourself to see what I mean. You have an angry thought bubble up and you become angry. It is the same with all your emotions. They’re your kneejerk responses to thoughts you can’t control. Your thoughts are like wild monkeys stung by a scorpion.”

-Socrates, The Way of the Peaceful Warrior

In this way meditation can become an invaluable resource. Sitting quietly in a chair or on a cushion becomes a way to observe the mental noise for what it is, “cerebral fidgeting.” In meditation we practice seeing things exactly as they are. When a thought arises we don’t resist it if it is unpleasant, nor do we try to hold onto it if it is pleasing. We begin to realize thoughts, emotions, and desires are impermanent. Even physical sensations come and go. An overwhelming itch that compels us to scratch soon can simply be noted and we can choose to just feel it. After a time of meditation I can notice the benefits almost immediately. I feel rested and rejuvenated. I am more aware of my thoughts and emotions as well as the effect those thoughts and feelings have on my physiology. The best thing about meditation is that anyone can do it, and benefit from it. You do not have to be Buddhist or religious at all to use it.

The Voice of the Soul

“Meditation is the tongue of the soul, and the language of our spirit.”

-Jeremy Taylor

First you will want to find a place you will not be disturbed for a little while. You can choose to sit in a chair. I find a chair without armrests is best, but you can sit in any chair really, or you can choose to sit on a cushion cross-legged. Either way your back should be erect but not rigid. You might close your eyes, but some people find it more beneficial to keep them open. Feel free to adapt a practice that works for you. The attitude is what matters, but you will want to stay alert. Meditation can be very relaxing and entrancing. I have been meditating at my local practice center and heard my friends sawing logs many times, and have fallen asleep myself.

To begin, place your attention gently on your breath. There’s no need to make your breath faster or slower or even. Just breathe, know that you are breathing and follow each breath. What do you notice most about your breathing? Do you feel it mostly in your chest, your stomach? Is it slow, fast, deep, or shallow? Sometimes it might be easier to focus if you begin by counting your breaths, making the mental notation: One I am aware that I am breathing in. One I am aware that I am breathing out. Two I am aware that I am breathing in. Two I am aware that I am breathing out, and so on. Try to feel every breath like that until you get to five, and then start over. After a while your breathing will become even, and you will be able to abandon counting. If thoughts bubble up, as they will and you catch yourself in some amazing fantasy that’s okay. Gently return your attention to your breathing. You may have to do this a thousand times, and that’s fine. That is why it is called practice. If a strong emotion comes on try not to push it away or cling onto it. Gently return your attention to your breath again, and again. This is the point to it. There’s nowhere to go. There’s nothing that needs doing. This moment has a right to exist, so let it. You’ll have thoughts; they will come and they will go—kind of like cars on the interstate. Whenever one catches your attention you don’t chase after it do you?! The same goes for the thoughts that pop up. Let them go. Notice that the thought came and notice that it passed. How did it feel? Was there a particular sensation that arose with it? Did your breathing quicken? Did you feel your heart speed up? Notice these things but do not dwell on them. Be mindful. Just because you noticed any one of these things does not mean that you have to do something about it. You’re alive! Just breathe, and just be!

+If it is your first time meditating you won’t want to overdo it. If you’ve never jogged before you wouldn’t want to jump right into a marathon. I find if my first experience with something is painful or unpleasant I might be less inclined to continue to do it. I started meditating for five or ten minutes before bed. Eventually you will be able to work your way up to longer periods of time.

There are many different ways to meditate, and it might be a matter of trial and error. I like to begin by closing my eyes, and I visualize myself holding two heavy bags. The one in my left hand has all of my past in it. All those people I have met. The memories of the good times, and times not so pleasant. This bag holds my successes and my failures. I imagine how heavy the bag is, and I visualize myself setting it down on the floor beside me. In my right I feel the weight of the bag that holds my dreams, my aspirations, and my plans later in the day. I feel the weight of my schedule, my itinerary. I visualize myself setting that bag down as well, and I don’t pick either bag up again until the end of my meditation. Visualizations can help your focus, but you’ll have to find what works for you. The more you learn about the practice of meditation the more your own personal practice will evolve. If you can keep an open mind and be willing to put learn and practice mindful living it will enrich your life, and make it fuller than you can imagine

There are many good books on the subject. I enjoyed Thich Nhat Hanh’s book “The Miracle of Mindfulness.” It’s a great introduction to the practice. Any decent public library will have a section on Eastern philosophy, and there are some amazing articles on the subject. It is an amazing part of my life, and I recommend it to everyone.


The Benefits of Meditation in Recovery


n recovery, as we gain experience, the world can be turbulent and at times we can become fraught. We make friends. We watch some of those walk away, and yet we make new friends. We lose things; homes burn down, or are foreclosed on. We lose jobs, and get sick. Friends and family are lost to death. Still life goes on, and we must find stillness in the storm if we are to remain abstinent long enough to see the impact of the steps in our lives. It is in these times that meditation can give us peace in times of chaos.

During the first couple months of my sobriety I was plagued by a fear of the unknown. The whole of my life was stretched out before me like a thunder cloud. It was very intimidating to think that for the rest of my life I could never put drugs and alcohol into my body again. At AA meetings I was assaulted by cliché after cliché after cliché. People said things like “one day at time,” or “easy does it,” or my favorite “keep it simple stupid.” I found no relief regardless of how true and useful the clichés were. It wasn’t until I found the practice of vipassana-meditation that I was able to find a hope that dispelled my fears. This daily practice combined with the steps I have taken in AA, and my higher-power (the study of Zen Buddhism and the spirit of the universe) has given me peace. I no longer gaze off into the future, and though it takes work, I look less into the past.

Vipassana, which means to see things as they truly are, is a meditative practice in which the practitioner uses mindfulness of the breath to see through to the impermanence of everything, and is one of India’s most ancient techniques of meditation. In this practice the meditator assumes a comfortable posture, either sitting in a chair or on a cushion with her spine erect, but not rigid. She begins by focusing her attention on the breath. She does not try to change the breath to make it even, or longer, or shorter, but instead she lets the breath come and go as it does naturally. If she has trouble concentrating she can use a mental object such as counting her breaths one count for her inhale and one count for the exhale. She can make an internal notation such as: “I breath in one. I exhale one. I inhale two I exhale two, and so on. As soon as the state of meditation is gained, and the breath has become even and natural she should abandon counting and continue to rest a light, friendly attention on the breath. She should note any changes in her breathing as just that a change in her breathing. As thoughts pop up, as they always do, she gently acknowledges that there was a thought and kindly brings her attention to the here, the now, the breath.

Meditation allows us to be our true selves, beyond notions of personality—beyond belief and disbelief— then slowly we begin to see the truth. The truth is that everything that we see or believe to be true or right, tangible or intangible is empty, and temporary. We see that nothing is static and that everything is changing. We dig deep and realize that how we are defined in the world or how we define ourselves is just an idea, an illusion that is a result of the desire to know who we are in relation to others, and in that realization comes freedom. It is the type of freedom that allows us to be truly spontaneous, adaptive, and aware of the somatic cues that can easily trip us up.

These somatic cues are physiological states that trigger in us the craving to use. For example: Imagine using alcohol, or drugs to escape an unpleasant emotion state like fear. You’ve been avoiding addressing the fear directly for years, and instead every time that fear arises you used a substance for relief. After a while you’ve conditioned your mind to seek relief from that substance every time you feel the physiological manifestations of fear (e.g. rapid breathing, wide eyes, muscles tensed, rapid heartbeat, etc.) thus triggering the phenomena of craving.

A study done on meditation’s effect on the cortices (the outer layer of the cerebrum which plays an important part on consciousness) published on NeuroReport suggests that meditation may be associated with changes in the areas in the brain responsible for sensory, cognitive, and emotional processing.

“It has been hypothesized that by becoming increasingly more aware of sensory stimuli during formal practice, the meditation practitioner is gradually able to use this self-awareness to more successfully navigate through potentially stressful encounters arise throughout the day [2,23]. This eastern philosophy of emotion dovetails with Domasio’s theory that connections between sensory cortices and emotion cortices play a crucial role in processing emotionally salient material and adaptive decision making [24].” the study said.

For many of us in early recovery awareness can mean the difference between life and death. Early recovery is a period of chaotic and raw emotion that is very real, palpable, and which many of us have avoided feeling in a very long time. In this early stage of our recovery it is absolutely vital to be aware of our internal states in order to recognize psychosomatic cues and triggers, to become acquainted with our emotions to see them as not as inherent truths, but the internal bubbling of the mind that is impermanent, and also as a way of communing with our higher power and ourselves.

In conclusion meditation as a daily practice can help to enrich our lives, as well as our recovery by making us more aware of our feelings, both emotionally and physically. It can hold the key to boundless joy, peace, and compassion for us and for others. It can literally change our brains making us more adaptive, aware, and sensible, but most of all it can help us to become liberated from the past, anchored in this moment, and ready to accept the next moment with love, compassion, and ease.